Weberlife Instafeed

Thursday, December 29, 2011

Being a New Mom

Looks a little like this.  Between all the yawns and only having time to post to this blog from my phone(hence the poor quality photos and lack of detail in posts)  I am feeling pretty behind on a lot of things.  I am also having the time of my life with this little guy.  He just turned 4 months and has discovered his hands.  He loves to stand(with help), squeal and pinch.  He is such a great little baby and smiles at everyone he meets.  So while I look tired outside, I am so very happy on the inside.

Wednesday, December 28, 2011

My handsome Boys

Grayson loves the bjorn(finally)! Today Doug took him for a while so I could get a few things done. Doug worked and walked on the treadmill while Grayson watched.  Doug came down the stairs and proclaimed: "well, now he knows how to program" What fun these two will have together!
Thanks Grandma and Grandpa Bench for the Bjorn!! What a useful Christmas Gift indeed!

Monday, December 26, 2011

Barkers visit

**notice that Cleo wanted to be in the photo? Sneaky little doggy!**

We had a short but very sweet visit with the Barkers!
We love you guys!

Hanging out

Grayson and I waiting@Tom and Leslie's.  What a cutie!

Merry Christmas!

Grayson's first and a happy one for us...hope it was for you too!

Sunday, December 25, 2011

Merry Merry Everything

Thanks to Aunt Missy for taking this photo and for making the adorable scarf!  We feel so very lucky for 2011.  We truly feel humbled.  A great year is just that much greater following a few hard ones.  Thanks to all of you who in one way or another have supported, encouraged, celebrated and loved us.

Thursday, December 8, 2011

Grayson's Day

We wanted to have a special day marking Grayson's arrival with our closest family. It was a very small affair that we planned while Kevin and Rosie were visiting. There are many others that we know will play a huge part of Grayson's life, but once we started looking at our circles outside of this group the numbers increased A LOT and the party became overwhelming instead of do-able. Below is the actual "Naming" part that Doug read to Grayson. The rest of the ceremony included advice from our parents, a book read by Leslie, a poem by Rosie and a song(and MC-ing) by Wayd. All in all it was a happy and emotional day--thanks to all who came and took part!(Sammi was sick :( we missed her!)

Grayson Michael Weber 

We as your parents are so happy to have you here. Safe and sound. The last 3 months we have had such a great time getting to know all of your tiny little ways, pinching your sweet cheeks and kissing your tiny little fingers and toes. We are painfully aware that all too soon you'll be big and we will yearn for these days back again. So we are taking it all in, every moment of you--ness we can get we are taking. Today though, we want to take some time, right now, while things are still new, to give you some insight into the name we chose for you as well as to promise you a few things things.

First let’s start with your name.

We really really did not want to mess that part up. After all your name is your first impression, your brand to the world. It is, in many ways, weaved into who you are and how you become who you will be. What a responsibility to give someone a name! We chose Grayson first, simply because it suited you. We had several names picked out but this one really was the only choice once we met you. It reflects strength and style, subtlety and cleverness with just a hint of nostalgia. We often find that in our own life the truth lies in the Gray, the fun, and the richness of most things can be found not in the extremes, the black and white, but somewhere in the middle. The Gray’s. We had only known you 3 or 4 days when we decided for sure that this would be your first name, but something told us it was supposed to be yours. We gave you a name without too much historical baggage in order to set you on a course to forge new meaning and impress on all you meet a positive association free from any preconceived notion or expectation. Look at it as a blank canvas--you are free to be who you choose.

Now on to your middle name.

Your mom is very very proud of her family and the closeness they share. The Bench family is very much a clan, and growing up a Bench is the source of great pride for her. Aesthetics aside, her first choice for your middle name may well have been Bench but it wasn't specific enough( and as you will learn your mom has never been good at leaving aesthetics aside) According to your Grandma Heather, Mickelle’s name was chosen because it is the feminine form of Michael after her father your Grandpa Bench. Additionally, you have an Uncle Michael, and also my parents gave me the middle name Michael. So no matter what we decided your first name would be your middle name was destined to be Michael. Your Grandpa Bench, the original Michael, is welcoming and kind, gives people the benefit of the doubt, always plays devils advocate, and will always welcome one more to any party. Together he and your Grandma have built a family of which anyone would be proud. They value family above all else. A lesson we truly hope you take with you. They choose authenticity over glamor, honest work over the easy way out, and offer a quiet but potent example of putting the people who mean the most to you, first. May you inherit their kind hearts, their loyal spirits and their green thumb!

Lastly, and never to be forgotten, you are a Weber. A name for which you should be proud. The Webers are known for their keen minds, their kindness and their industrius ways. They are devoted friends and loyal to the end. No one can out work, or out love a Weber. My family, since they immigrated to the United States, have been practicing Mormons and many still are. As you will learn, your Mother and I have not chosen that path and would not choose it for you. However, … take all the good there is from this heritage, internalize it and use it in your life as you would any tool. My advice to you is quite simply, trust in yourself and your own ability to make decisions and choose right from wrong. There are a lot of hard decisions in life and no one can make those decisions better than you. There is some comfort in feeling like you know all the answers, but there is more lasting freedom in choosing to always be questioning. The world is full of adventures waiting to be had. Practice moderation in all things, treat others as you would choose to be treated, and be and let be. There is truth, beauty and fulfillment to be found in all things and ways of thinking. Do not ever feel the need to limit yourself. Let these principles guide you and you will find any answer you are seeking and enjoy a full and well lived life indeed!

Finally Grayson there are a few things that we want to promise you as your parents. We cannot promise to be perfect in their execution but we will try.

1) We will love you and support you no matter what happens in your life, or in ours. It seems simple, and perhaps goes without saying, but we will.

2) We promise to work as a team and have the best marriage we can for you, and for us. We love each other so much that we decided to have a you! You are first and foremost an expression of our love for one another and our wish for it to never end. We choose each other every moment of every day. And choose you always, thick or thin--you are our life’s work and joy.

3) We promise to laugh with you(and at times at you) cry with you, guide you, and listen to you. We promise to try to know just what you need to hear when faced with life’s many challenges and to teach you to build a community to turn to when we do not. If you were to look around this room we have tried to get you started, you can always turn to any one of these people for guidance:

You’ve got Max and Susan who are adventurous and studious. If you ever need a good book or a good laugh you can count on them! You will be better for knowing them, as we all are.
Uncle Michael and Aunt Sammi: their kindness and subtle, careful ways are to be admired. They will not offer advice unless asked but never mistake that as not having lots of wisdom to give.
Uncle Kevin and Aunt Rosie who’s fun ways and never ending energy always make for a great time. They are true craftsman in the life they have built together. They have a thirst for knowledge and a insatiable lust for life. Your cousins already love you too--what a gift!
Grandma and Grandpa Bench who will teach you to grow a garden and brew your own beer! If you are really lucky they will teach you to fish or waterski!
Uncle Tom and Aunt Leslie who among other things could teach you to refurbish a house, plan a party, mountain bike and make a good stiff drink--and that is just on a saturday!
And last, Grandma and Grandpa Weber who are true renaissance people--any question you have, they will know(or know how to find) the answer, they will teach you to love and cherish life, and to always be game for any new adventure.
Grayson we cannot believe that we could ever love anyone as much as we love you. Never forget that you are worthy, but not entitled to all the good life has to offer. Work hard and it will find you. You are a gift to us and if you will allow us to be active spectators in your life we will count ourselves among the luckiest people alive. This is your life and your name--we know you will use them wisely Mama and Daddy

















If you can keep your head when all about you
Are losing theirs and blaming it on you;
If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you,
But make allowance for their doubting too:
If you can wait and not be tired by waiting,
Or, being lied about, don't deal in lies,
Or being hated don't give way to hating,
And yet don't look too good, nor talk too wise;

If you can dream---and not make dreams your master;
If you can think---and not make thoughts your aim,
If you can meet with Triumph and Disaster
And treat those two impostors just the same:.
If you can bear to hear the truth you've spoken
Twisted by knaves to make a trap for fools,
Or watch the things you gave your life to, broken,
And stoop and build'em up with worn-out tools;

If you can make one heap of all your winnings
And risk it on one turn of pitch-and-toss,
And lose, and start again at your beginnings,
And never breathe a word about your loss:
If you can force your heart and nerve and sinew
To serve your turn long after they are gone,
And so hold on when there is nothing in you
Except the Will which says to them: "Hold on!"

If you can talk with crowds and keep your virtue,
Or walk with Kings---nor lose the common touch,
If neither foes nor loving friends can hurt you,
If all men count with you, but none too much:
If you can fill the unforgiving minute
With sixty seconds' worth of distance run,
Yours is the Earth and everything that's in it,
And---which is more---you'll be a Man, my son!

Rudyard Kipling

Tom and Les were also formally named Grayson's Godparents--Below is what I wrote and read to them.  

Tom and Les,

There is just no great place to begin--you are our best and closest friends, also family, you never let us down and always, always are there to remind us to have a good time.  We have been through a lot so far, the best of times and also the worst so far, have included you guys.
We always wonder how it is that we got so lucky to have people like you in our lives, you are both such a gift to us.  Grayson is lucky to have such a dynamic duo to call his godparents.

If it isn’t obvious why we chose you for this task, well, let’s just say Doug and I barely discussed it.  It goes without saying: you are the absolute closet thing there would be to
us raising Grayson if we were unable for any reason.  However, there are at more than a  amazing things about you guys, that are unique, that we hope he sees and emulates.

Let’s start with  your humor.  You two, on your own, both have such great comedic senses about you.  If I need to laugh, I head to the Reese’s.  Together, you make quiet the act. You have such a special connection through laughter and it is so amazing to see(and additionally very very entertaining)  Additionally, we knew we could count on you guys to not take the “god” in god parents very seriously.  We do, however, expect Grayson to be fully prepared to debate the distinct difference between  PBR and Heinekin, learn that golfing while drinking either will undoubtly improve your game(or at least your impression of it) and how to enjoy the comedy in everyday life.  You two are masters of that.

Next, your ability to get more done in one day than any two people I have ever met.  Your house alone is a testament to just what a great team can do when tasked with something that seems almost impossible.  Others see a beautiful home with great style and craftsmanship.  I see that and an incredible love letter that you two have written to one another in all of the walls painted, all of the carefully chosen details, and the spaces you have made your own.  Grayson, and with a little more time, his cousins, will have so many adventures in that house that you have created so lovingly and carefully.  

Also, you are careful with your words, both of you.  This is a lesson I am still learning, but as I have watched you two navigate the waters of some of the cruelest things that any person or couple should have to endure, you have done so with Grace, and an openness that you should know is very, very rare.  A particular example is when I was with you two after Les had a very rough surgery.  Tom had some devastating news and I will never, ever forget the way he knew just what to say and when to say it.  He delivered the news in it’s time, and in the only way she could have heard it.  It took my breath away.  Additionally, it is never, ever hard to tell how important Tom is to Leslie.  He is her top priority, her best friend, her partner in crime and her first choice in companion for all things.  We can only hope that Grayson will someday find a match so well suited for him.

Last, you are both very slow to judge and always learning and evolving.  This may be one of your greatest attributes.  In Leslie’s classroom she thinks through each square inch of it.  Additionally every party she throws(and she has thrown quite a few this year) she has every detail mapped out, and every detail accounted for.  Somehow she manages to remember everything and also everyone.  This is a rare gift.  In Tom’s love for all things outdoors he is meticulous and refined. Never taking or buying anything extraneous, but when he does it is the right tool for the job.  It is traits like this that kids pick up without thinking.  

In the end we know you will be there for Grayson, you already have been there or heard about his birth, our first weeks together, every sleepless night, every health concern real or imagined, and have been there for us and him as a constant force of love and support.  We will forever be grateful for our friendship and now, we are grateful that you have accepted the formal title to what you already are.  Grayson may be the luckiest little boy alive to have you two in his life.  

Thank you doesn’t quite cover it but will have to suffice,

Doug Mickelle and Grayson